This is how to send a semi-decent online dating message in nine easy steps.A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel.Funny is good, but if you are not actually funny, don’t strain anything trying to be.Straightforward and nice is infinitely better than trying to be funny and failing miserably. There are lots of reasons why someone might not message you back. Now have patience, or set your sights on one of the 10,000 other single people in your area.
We’re all internet dating here – it follows that we are all single and perhaps don’t want to be.
You would think “don't be a dick” would be obvious, but there are apparently legions of people (mostly dudes) who adopt crappy pick-up artist tactics in their online dating lives, and think they might get lucky by sending vaguely (or blatantly) insulting messages to unsuspecting recipients (negging is actually a thing! Is there some low-self-esteem lady out there who might respond to a message about how ugly she is?
Sure, maybe, but the odds are slim — and since this is the internet, even women who have been strongly socialized to be nice to cretins in bars are able to hit the delete key.
“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.
More likely to get a response: A message that is directly responsive to several things in the object of your affection’s profile.