(I don’t even think that’s necessarily healthy for single people either.) You just have to remember that apart from being a fabulous mother, you can still be a human being.You’re no longer the confused, single girl who doesn’t know what the hell she wants out of life.We are all deserving of love, or the possibility of love.We all deserve a second chance at a lasting relationship.You know what you want because you already have it.You have children, you’ve done the wife thing, you have a plan and a means of pursuing that plan. Dating as a single mom will be a lot less confusing for you now. Telling your kids that you’re dating again can be terrifying.It’s important to know when you’re ready, both mentally and physically.
To some, the word evokes memories of romantic moments with a significant other.
You don’t want to make them excited to see you again, and then never follow through. You can look at your failed marriage in two ways: a traumatic loss, and waste of time OR a substantial learning experience.
Even if you are truly busy, it can be a real let down for someone who only wants to get to know you better. You should have a much better understanding of what kind of person WOULD be right for you going forward. If you’re looking to eventually remarry, you have all the tools to get it right the second time. Not only should you consider things you wished were different about your ex, you should also think about ways that you could change in order to make a relationship work. Figuring out what you can change about yourself, or what you truly want, or how to enter into a new relationship with a clean slate, all of these things will help your future love life succeed.
No, these things are not “baggage,” but they do still exist. If and when a new relationship gets serious enough, you should have not only yourself in mind, but also your children, the respect of your ex-husband, and the courtesy of your new beau.
Here’s a short guide that might help you prepare and look forward to your return to dating as a single mom.